Brain in pieces, but still searching
brain
Hey, remember when your friend sent you three frog memes and wrote, 'this is me today'?'
me
Of course. And I immediately knew it meant: 'I don't have the energy to talk, but I'm with you with my whole heart (and the whole frog).'
brain
Neurodivergent communication — fast, wordless, memetic.
me
Or how she reminds me every day to eat something, because 'coffee and panic is not a complete meal.'
brain
That is love in the ADHD version. A diet based on care, not caffeine.
me
And that spontaneous DIY neurospinner project? Me: 'Let's start a shop.' Her: 'I'm buying beads wholesale!'
brain
One week later: logo, fanpage, and zero products.
me
But what flow we had! Creativity > logistics.
brain
A classic: 'Let's throw everything away and run into the forest — no people, just moss, a campfire, and squirrels.'
me
I'm still waiting for someone to turn that into a startup.
brain
And the fact that no one replies for two weeks, and then the conversation returns as if nothing happened?
me
That's called a relationship based on trust, not on an algorithm.
What does it mean to be a neurodivergent friend?
brain
Neurodivergent friends are not just people. They are:
- walking reminders to “eat something,”
- spiritual support, even when they themselves are in shutdown,
- cheerleaders for your ideas, even the ones that arrive at 3:17 a.m.
me
Sometimes I feel that if we all had relationships like this, the world would be less about functioning and more about being together.
brain
Wait — what does that mean? Less about functioning?
me
You know… the world is always judging you:
- Are you productive?
- Do you reply to emails within two minutes?
- Are you ‘on top of things’?
me
But with people like this, I feel that I can simply be myself. I don't have to prove that I deserve a place in society by how much I managed to do today.
brain
Ah. So it's about... surviving with acceptance instead of with Google Calendar?
Relationships as shelter
me
Exactly. These relationships feel like shelter from a world that measures value in efficiency.
brain
So neurodivergent friends are like an emotional-support hot-water bottle — just with memes?
me
And sometimes with an evacuation plan into the forest.